Britney Will Get Help -- Like It or Not

331. Gotta get through her gaggle of people to get to her, first!

Posted at 9:17AM on Jan 10th 2008 by Jbird

332. Finally!! thats exactly what she needs. The girl needs help and i'm sure she knows something's not right but in her mind he can handle it. I know that cuz i've been there. Shee needs to be forces into help and then one that's kicked in hopefully she'll realize that 'yes, there's somthing wrong with me and i needed help' I wish the girl the best.

Posted at 10:55PM on Jan 11th 2008 by Jackie

333. u know brit is going throw some things and i feel bad because she got rich realy fast and as you know money is the root of evil and i would help her but i think she should be with herself for about a day or two.





trevonn barnes

Posted at 9:44AM on Jan 10th 2008 by trevonn

334. If it wa anyone other than her mom involved I'd say go for it. But where her mamawannabe is concerned I seriously dubt her intentions are any more than good pr.

Posted at 10:19AM on Jan 10th 2008 by sierra

335. I would hope we dont go back to the 1950's snakepits of ye old mental hospitals..of anyone who wants to get rid of a relative who is a problem to them can be put away no questions asked..I ask who here is capable of proving they are sane to the shrink world? where everyone who doesnt conform is bipolar...um last I looked Britney is a adult ..she has not hurt herself or the children she has been negative for drugs and booze .. seems the family is concerned but maybe more because of the Ca$h flow is not going their way...Yes Britney has made some pretty stupid choices, but who is to honestly say if they were hunted like she is by the paps they wouldnt get sleep deprived and ya ya a bit...Britney was held at Cedars on a 51/50 because she wanted more time with her boys...maybe she went a little nuts and didnt want to turn loose the one she held in the bathroom...seems she wants her boys more than people can really see from the outside looking in..Thats not nuts thats feeling the primal instint of being a mother...Why was Kfed not nailed to the wall?...he could have man-ed up and said ok Brit for the kids lets raise the boys together despite the fact we cant stand each other we have to love some part of each otther that made these two babies...Lets tell these lawyers to shove it and raise our boys and share them lets not let the lawyers make our children feel like pawns in a chess game where there are no winners ...because if parents can only focus on the squabbling of petty matters like who left the cap off the toothpaste and everything is petty compared to the only issue that is important the only thing of value they both must share are these two boys...what will come next ? Cutting each of the children in half like the bible story so they both can have a equal amount?...
Children are smart much smarter than adults give them credit...They will see and know who is telling the truth and thats the saddest part of all ...that these two children are paying the price for parents who both are acting childish!
The fact is Kfed wants to try to prove her nuts so he can get full custody and the Ca$h that goes with it...His lawyer can smell the money and both are salavating...Britney was NEGATIVE FOR DRUGS AND BOOZE...why dont we see the paps following Kfed Ex about sticking a camera in his face?..and analysing every breath he takes? Why dont we see his tox screen results ? and why isnt he held up to public opinion as much as she is??.seems most pictures of the boys when they are in his care are of the boys with the nanny or a bodyguard..why didnt anyone comment on Kevin swerving all over the road in his truck the night he picked up the boys and was following behind the body guard...what if he hit a slick spot or God forbid another car?...noooo they reported he was protecting his kids from the paps and blocking photos ...umm it was late kids where tired anyone heard of putting a blanket over them..Britney needs to think before she acts I know she hasnt had much of a childhood..soo boo hoo ..your a adult and you decided to make two children so suck it up and raise them...have your childhood right along with them...what do you want to leave behind Britney?two well adjusted boys who felt the love of a mother or boys who rememer pictures of mommy without panties and passed out from a night of parties sex drugs and rock and roll?..Sorry about the tolstoy folks but nothing makes me any hotter than just plain out stupidity! and its stupid no one can grow up and do the right thing!

Posted at 9:57AM on Jan 10th 2008 by Cat

336. Dear Debbie/grandmother-YES. Postpartum Depression, change of jobs, location, a death, a divorce, facing a new responsibility of any kind can all trigger a mental health relapse; the anniversary of a loss or hardship. Ultimately it's about the indivdual not having healthy coping skills and finding it too difficult to learn new ways of coping, so they resort to unhealthy often dangerous ways of expressing their feelings. Their harmful and often hurtful behaviors are their way of expressing complex thoughts and feelings-this does not make those behaviors acceptable, it just explains, partially, WHY they behave how they do. I have seen individuals live very full and 'normal' lives by commiting themselves to proper care and by dealing with their underlying fears, past hurts etc...Family therpay can be effective, but only when all parties want things to get better. When there is too much resentment still floating around the healing cannot begin as people are still seeking validation, apology or some kind of retribution for their 'suffering'. However, there is a point when we, as adults, should be able to let go of the past (in all of it's trauma or horror) love ourselves, forgive and move on to attend to the adult responsibility we created (our own families, housing needs, relationships, etc.)
But people don't always achieve this-no matter how much love or compassion or understanding we offer. Sometimes, it's never enough and the person is invested in remaining sick and having others care for them. And that's okay, to a point. Children must be protected at all costs. When the mentally ill individual has their children taken away or placed in protective care it forces them to acknowledge that all is not well and they often retaliate, blame, explode or fall into depression. It' simply overwhelmes them to face their own reality-however, again, this does not excuse the behavior.
Long story short-protect the kids while the individual works it out-which could take the rest of his or her life. Protect yourself and your feelings too-be realistic about what the individual can and cannot rise up to do. Don't expect anything from them and if you can, focus on what you love about that person while maintaining a healthy distance. Good Luck.

Posted at 9:57AM on Jan 10th 2008 by Elizabeth K

337. Has Britney Spears been formally diagnosed with bi-polar disorder? Even if she has, why would she need to be committed? She is but one of millions of people around the world who has been afflicted with bi-polar disorder. Most of those persons are not institutionalized and once they maintain their medical regime will be fine. Ocassionally people have breakdowns and may need to be hospitalized for a few days. However I am very suspicious of this argument about conservatorship and assuming control over someones life, particularly when that person has a substantial resource base. Also where were these concerned persons when she was shaving her head and all the other wild things she did previously. Also since they are now willing to speak with TMZ why did they speak earlier when Britney was being labelled as a drug addict etc. This is extremely suspicious. But for those of you who keep talking about committing Britney please understand that you are doing more harm tthan good not just for a Britney Spears but for the millions who will be diagnosed with bi-polar disorder but because of your nonsense will resist any form of intervention by anyone fearing that they will be cast away in a "looney bin" and their lives taken over. This is far too serious an illness to be trivialized.

Posted at 9:57AM on Jan 10th 2008 by Really now

338. BI-POLAR AND BORDERLINE PERSONALLITY IS NOT EASY TO LIVE WITH IF YOU HAVE IT AND IMPOSSIBLE TO DEAL WITH IF YOU HAVE A FAMILY MEMBER THAT IS. I KNOW AS MY DAUGHTER SUFFERS FROM IT.
SHE HAS HAD 3 MARRIAGES, TWO CHILDREN ONE WITH THE SECOND MARRIAGE AND ONE WITH THE THIRD. SHE LEFT HER KIDS AND IS IMPOSSIBLE TO DEAL WITH. I HAVE HAD HER IN ONE HOSPITAL AFTER ANOTHER AND HAD TO BEG THEM TO KEEP HER EVEN ONCE FOR A LOUSY 10 DAYS! NO ONE WILL HELP ME AND NEVER HAS IN ALL THE YRS. I'VE TRIED TO GET HER HELP. IF WE HAD MONEY WE MIGHT HAVE BEEN ABLE TO THAT HELP.
THE PROBLEM WITH PEOPLE THAT HAVE EITHER OR BOTH OF THESE DISORDERS IS THEY REFUSE TO STAY ON THEIR MEDICATION. WHEN THEY ARE MANIC THEY THINK THEY CAN HANDLE ANYTHING,MY DAUGHTER 36 NOW, I OFTEN CRIED MYSELF TO SLEEP WONDERINF IF SHE WERE DEAD OR ALIVE, SEEING AS SHE MOVED OUT OF STATE NOW. WHEN THEY GET ON THE DEPRESSED PART THEY CAN AND WILL TRY TO KILL THEMSELVES, I KNOW AS MY DAUGHTER TRIED IT TWICE. THEY NEED AND CRAVE ATTENTION THAT NO ONE ON EARTH CAN GIVE THEM. THEY DON'T ADMIT THEY EVEN HAVE A PROBLEM. I TRIED TO HAVE MY DAUGHTER GET HER TUBES TIED AFTER HER FIRST CHILD. SOMEHOW THEY SEEM TO WANT TO HAVE A BABY BUT THEN JUST WALK AWAY.
THESE ARE ALL THINGS BRITNEY IS DOING AND I HAVE SAID FROM THE BEGINNING AFTER SHE HAD HER FIRST SON, THAT SHE WAS BI-POLAR OR BORDERLINE PERSONALITY OR BOTH.
IF I HAD THE MONEY I'D HAVE DONE WHAT LYNNE AND JAMIE SPEARS SHOULD HAVE DONE FORTHEIR DAUGHTER ASAP AFTER SHE HAD HER FIRST CHILD. BRITNEY WILL GET PREGNANT AGAIN. THANK GOD MY DAUGHTER LOST THE LAST ONE.
THEY HAVE A WAY OF CONVINCING THEMSELVES THAT THE WORLD IS OUT TO GET THEM,CRAVE THAT ATTENTION RATHER IT IS GOOD OR BAD ATTENTION. I DON'T UNDERSTAND WHY SOMEONE HASN'T DONE SOMETHING SOONER.
BEING OF AGE IS AWFUL FOR A PERSON LIKE THAT, AS THE PARENTS HAVE THERE HANDS TIED BY THE SYSTEM SUCH AS IT IS,UNLESS YOU HAVE MONEY AND SHE HAS MONEY AND SO DO THE SPEARS THANKS TO HER! I HOPE THIS DOES NOT HAPPEN TO JAMIE LYNN AS WELL,BUT IT COULD.
MY MOTHER WAS PI-POLAR OF THAT I AM SURE NOW WHEN I LOOK BACK. I AM SURE IT GOES DOWN THE FAMILY LINE THEY NEED TO LOOK BACK INTO THE FAMILIES.
GOD BLESS HER,I PRAY SHE GETS THE HELP SHE NEEDS. I NEVER SLEEP A NIGHT THROUGH STILL AT 66 YRS. OLD. EVERYONE'S GRAM

Posted at 9:58AM on Jan 10th 2008 by GRAM

339. This is sad so sad she just need 2 go 2 an insain isylum and stay there

Posted at 4:57PM on Jan 10th 2008 by Misha123

340. Gram whereas i am not even sure that I can fully appreciate the torment you have had to bear and I can identify with most of what you have said I am concerned that persons are advocating that someone who we are not even sure has this disorder must be institutionalized and someone appointed as conservator over her life. There are many treatment regimems and whereas I know the challenge of getting them to maintain their meds, we have to be careful that we don't cast people afflicted with bi-polar disorder as freaks who should not have any children and need to be institutionalixed. While for a few this may well need to be the case, most peope live normal lives. Remember it was just a few short weeks ago that the cry was for Britney Spears to be sent to rehab and /or prison for a drug or drinking problem she never had.

Posted at 10:20AM on Jan 10th 2008 by Really now

341. What makes them think that Brit is going to stick around the USA waiting for that to happen????

Posted at 10:53AM on Jan 10th 2008 by Georgia Lass

342. she is gonna HAVE to been taken in against her will. there is no way she is going to go willingly. look, she is now in mexico. this girl needs to be under lock and key for a little while till meds get her regulated and she can think clearly.

Posted at 11:40AM on Jan 10th 2008 by oops she did it again

343. People have the right to make decisions, no matter how poor that they may appear to be to other people. Unless someone is a danger to themselves or others, they can't be held against their will. A danger to themselves or others isn't something that hollywood freaks and family members come up with - it means that the person is in physical danger as a result of their intended actions, or that other people are in physical danger as a result of their actions. Even if someone is deemed to be a danger, that doen't mean that treatment can be forced upon them. Many mental illnesses present themselves in the late teens or 20's and families all over are struggling with such an issue. It's unfortunate that mental illness occurs - but she hasn't even been diagnosed and as long as she doesn't want to no one can make her do so. Not even Oprah's boy Phil (who displayed everything that is wrong with teevee pop psychologists.

She can act as crazy as she wants to and no one can stop her. The best that they can do is to cut her off from their lives until she behaves in the manner that they would like her to - but a mentally ill person may not care if that happens. The only reason that this story has received so much play is because it's in the public eye and everyone is trying to cash in on it. We're all watching a slow train wreck that we can't stop - and her parents are a bit too late trying to place limitations upon her at this point.

They might want to get help themselves - to find out why they pimped out their children at such a young age and whether their motives are personal or financial at this point.

Posted at 11:35AM on Jan 10th 2008 by SJ

344.

Ahhhh, now it is becoming clear why she ran to Mexico.

It sounds harsh, but it looks like she basically ditched her kids and her responsibilities by making yet another undeniably bad decision.

She obviously needs help in the worst possible way. I sincerely hope this does not end tragically.

Posted at 11:49AM on Jan 10th 2008 by OCD

345. I'm a mother of an adult child with bi-polar...I had to go the route of having him conserved to get the help he needed. A mental health doctor is the one who submits to the court that she is gravely disabled and cant care for herself or is a danger to others. If they cant get her to go see a doc it might be hard to do this. Good Luck and my prayers are with you.

Posted at 3:22PM on Jan 10th 2008 by bearbotom1